If you receive email from me you know my signature says love did, love does, love will always do. It’s something I truly believe and practice on a regular basis. Years ago I wrote a blog titled love, over used and under thought. Would you agree, we say I love you quite often but is it something we mean or something we just say because we’re supposed to? I believe the latter far more than the former. I have a difficult time saying those three words unless I 100%, no holds bar love. I have an even harder time believing them when they are spoken to me.
Love does not fade, love forgives and moves forward. That means, as it has been said, you write the good things a person does on your heart and the hurtful things in sand so they are blown away as quickly as they occur. That’s not to say there is no accountability, nor is it saying you don’t work it or you’re expected to forget but you do move forward from it. You don’t bring up past hurts for a lifetime. You focus on the good in a person. Love will bring out the good if you seek it. Even tough love should be short. As soon as the person shows the smallest progress you come back in, jump in their lives and cheer them on. Positive reinforcement accomplishes so much more than negative words and actions. Remaining out of someones life simply says, I don’t love you, I don’t care, you’re just not good enough to be in my life. It does not express love but judgement.
Love is an action. Love is opening the door when you don’t want to. Love it helping when it’s hard. Love is selfless. Love is generous. Love does. Love does not depend on past deeds. The words I helped, I did, I forgave, I tried are not words of love. Words of love are I helped then and always will, I opened my home to you and always will, I forgave and will always forgive, I believed in you and always will no matter what. Love does not bring up the past and hold someone to past wrongs it moves forward.
Love is not something you fall in and out of. Marriages don’t always work out but if you loved when you married, you don’t fall out of love. You will love that person always. Parents love their children, they don’t always like their actions, their words, how they respond, etc, but they always love them, always accept them, always are there no matter what when they love them. Not all parents love, some hurt, some injure, some walk away but most love with ferocity.
Love is not dependent on the actions of others. You choose to love and sometimes that choice means you love even when those you love are not treating you with love. That goes with forgiving. There are things that are hard to forgive, a cheating spouse, a child that’s taken a life, someone who’s turned their back on you when you needed them most but when you chose to love, you love despite their actions. It’s not easy but it’s what love does.
There was a women I knew who lost her child to a senseless act of violence. When the individual who took her child’s life was caught, it was someone she had loved, invited into her home, taken in as one of her own. This individual had shot into a crowd, not aiming but hit someone they grew up with. This person showed no remorse. The woman’s reaction – love and forgiveness toward the person who took the life of her child. She understood love. I can’t say I would react so graciously to the loss of one of my children. I would hope I would but I can’t say I would.
Love of things is not love. Things come and go. Money comes and goes. Love stays and you can’t love a thing that is temporary. You can desire it. You can chase after it. You can judge people by how much of it they have but you can’t genuinely love it.
Loved did in the past. Love does in the present. Love can be depended on to always do in the future. So tell me, do you love?
Thanks for reading my brain splatter and have an amazing day 😀