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Screwtape Letters June 24, 2016

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The Screwtape letters, a great book by C.S. Lewis, about Screwtape, an older demon, giving advice to Wormwood, a younger demon charged with winning a soul. I have read this book many times and am excited to be facilitating a three week online reading group about this book. I am anticipating some great discussions as we go through this book together. As always, I like to open up these groups to anyone, anywhere that is interested.

  • Dates – Tuesday, June 28, Tuesday, July 5, Tuesday, July 12
  • Time – 6:30pm
  • Where – Online
  • When to read what: Week one chapters 1 – 10, Week two chapters 11 – 20, Week three chapters 21 – 31.
  • What you need – A hard copy of download of the book “The Screwtape Letters” by C.S. Lewis and a desire to discuss it 😀
  • If you’re interested – Contact me, Ginger, at gingerroels@gmail.com

I would love to have you be a part of what is sure to be riveting discussions.

Thanks for reading my brain splatter and have a great day!!

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Happy Father’s Day June 17, 2016

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This father’s day marks three years since my father went home to be with his Father. I suppose I’m the luckiest girl alive to have my dad and my heavenly father both looking down on me and I can only hope I make them both proud with who I am and continue to become. Of course, I still miss him and as I did the past two years I’ll curl up with his favorite shirt and watch Clint Eastwood movies all day in his honor 😀

To all you dads out there who helped fix their kids cars, helped motivate their kids to get straight A’s or good grades, helped with homework, who loved their kids faults and all, who embarrassed their kids at every opportunity or at the most opportune moments anyway, who mowed the lawn with their grand kids and a million other things that only dads and grandpas can do, HAPPY FATHERS DAY!!!
You are the men more kids need in their lives.  You are the men to look up to.  Perfect or not, you are the men who are trying. To many kids grow up never knowing a dad so to you who remain active in a positive way in your children’s lives, hats off.
HAVE AN AMAZING FATHERS DAY WITH YOUR, NO DOUBT, PERFECT CHILDREN 😀
 

How Many V8s Will It Take…. June 8, 2016

Filed under: Uncategorized — gingerroels @ 1:55 pm

We all have moments where we realize we just did something idiotic, smack our heads and think back to the “I should of had a V8 commercial”.  Once in awhile, we do something really idiotic and realize, no matter how many V8s we have, it wouldn’t help. Then, there are those, who given a life time supply of V8 would still need just one more. Somedays, those others seem to be everywhere…..just saying.

Honestly, how many V8s is it going to take?

 

Love Did, Love Does, Love Will Always Do April 28, 2016

Filed under: Uncategorized — gingerroels @ 10:12 am

If you receive email from me you know my signature says love did, love does, love will always do. It’s something I truly believe and practice on a regular basis.  Years ago I wrote a blog titled love, over used and under thought.  Would you agree, we say I love you quite often but is it something we mean or something we just say because we’re supposed to?  I believe the latter far more than the former.  I have a difficult time saying those three words unless I 100%, no holds bar love.  I have an even harder time believing them when they are spoken to me.

 

Love does not fade, love forgives and moves forward.  That means, as it has been said, you write the good things a person does on your heart and the hurtful things in sand so they are blown away as quickly as they occur.  That’s not to say there is no accountability, nor is it saying you don’t work it or you’re expected to forget but you do move forward from it. You don’t bring up past hurts for a lifetime. You focus on the good in a person. Love will bring out the good if you seek it.  Even tough love should be short. As soon as the person shows the smallest progress you come back in, jump in their lives and cheer them on. Positive reinforcement accomplishes so much more than negative words and actions. Remaining out of someones life simply says, I don’t love you, I don’t care, you’re just not good enough to be in my life. It does not express love but judgement.

 

Love is an action. Love is opening the door when you don’t want to. Love it helping when it’s hard. Love is selfless. Love is generous. Love does. Love does not depend on past deeds. The words I helped, I did, I forgave, I tried are not words of love. Words of love are I helped then and always will, I opened my home to you and always will, I forgave and will always forgive, I believed in you and always will no matter what. Love does not bring up the past and hold someone to past wrongs it moves forward.

 

Love is not something you fall in and out of. Marriages don’t always work out but if you loved when you married, you don’t fall out of love. You will love that person always. Parents love their children, they don’t always like their actions, their words, how they respond, etc, but they always love them, always accept them, always are there no matter what when they love them. Not all parents love, some hurt, some injure, some walk away but most love with ferocity.

 

Love is not dependent on the actions of others. You choose to love and sometimes that choice means you love even when those you love are not treating you with love. That goes with forgiving. There are things that are hard to forgive, a cheating spouse, a child that’s taken a life, someone who’s turned their back on you when you needed them most but when you chose to love, you love despite their actions. It’s not easy but it’s what love does.

 

There was a women I knew who lost her child to a senseless act of violence. When the individual who took her child’s life was caught, it was someone she had loved, invited into her home, taken in as one of her own. This individual had shot into a crowd, not aiming but hit someone they grew up with. This person showed no remorse. The woman’s reaction – love and forgiveness toward the person who took the life of her child. She understood love. I can’t say I would react so graciously to the loss of one of my children.  I would hope I would but I can’t say I would.

 

Love of things is not love. Things come and go. Money comes and goes. Love stays and you can’t love a thing that is temporary. You can desire it. You can chase after it. You can judge people by how much of it they have but you can’t genuinely love it.

 

Loved did in the past. Love does in the present. Love can be depended on to always do in the future.   So tell me, do you love?

 

Thanks for reading my brain splatter and have an amazing day 😀

 

Exceed Expectations, Raise Bar, Repeat April 8, 2016

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We should live so that we exceed all expectations everyday that we may raise the bar so high that exceed becomes expected. Then exceed expectations and raise it again.

I’m a bit of an overachiever at work, at parenting…I have two overachiever children.  I am a firm believer in being able to do anything.  I want to know how everyone does their job so anyone in need of assistance can depend on me without apprehension and with complete confidence. I also like to take on as much responsibility as I possibly can.  I’ve never met the person who can keep me busy all the time.  I find myself looking for more.

I am the yes, of course, I can learn it, do it, rock it girl.   However, overachievers do have one major flaw, self-neglect because they are to busy doing everything else for everyone else. They are extremely hard on themselves when they are unable to meet someone’s expectations because, and I can guarantee from personal experience, an overachiever is killing themselves trying.

 You can be a bar raiser, expectation exceeded and all around go to person without being an overachiever. Never be complacent, never get to content, never make excuses…things are what they are, always have two mentors, a family member or friend who understands and cares for you and one who mentors you more specifically, who push  you, encourage you and care about you. 

 

I have had various mentors throughout my life at various times for various reasons. I also have some now.  Here are some mentors past and present, passive and active.

  • Joe Haywood – an amazing mentor with a great deal of experience in life and work.  He has and is teaching me so much about where I work, boilers, room turns and all kinds of maintenance stuff while giving me lots of other administrator stuff.  He keeps it interesting, ever changing and I love it. He is an amazing individual who I am lucky to know and have mentoring me.
  • Frank Esparza – another amazing mentor who I had in my teens and who helped me become who I am today.  While I can’t go into all the detail (to much information for a blog) he taught me about trust, forgiveness, change, acceptance and to never just take someone at their word. Life is a matter of perspective and yours isn’t always right…neither is mine.   The only things I can say are true that you can not debate are things like my name, hair color, dental condition, medical condition, where I work, where I live, whether or not I’m married, whether or not I have children, whether my family is living or dead….these are simply facts.  You’d be foolish to argue them because I can prove facts should I choose to.   What color the sky is, what a passage of scripture in the Bible might mean, how the world will end….perspective….so people won’t always agree.  You take the information you have, you gather what you need and form your perspective.  That won’t make either of us right but we may end up agreeing now and then 😀  Frank is also an amazing father to four beautiful children that I adore.
  • Mike Goldsworthy – another amazing individual who has over the years through his actions given passive mentorship and through his words active mentorship and counsel. I am grateful for both. I consider him someone I can talk to about just about anything and receive unbridled honesty given in love.  He is unique in that.
  • Cathy Taylor – a super amazing woman. Someone who has mentored me quite actively for many years, whether I wanted to be or not.  I am extremely grateful for her tell it like you see it approach tempered with absolute love. She does what she believes is right and for the right reasons and not always with an easy spirit.  I really can’t imagine life without Cathy.
  • Drue Boles – You will never find a more compassionate person.  He genuinely wants whats best. He gently shepherds you into the person you could be. He’s not afraid to get down and harsh when the time calls for it. He is a friend, a mentor, a wonderful man without any doubt.  I am grateful I have met him and had his ear, his counsel and his friendship.  He has a way of knowing you need to talk even during the most silent of times. He is very unique in this.
  • Rodney Ingle (aka my dad) – He spent his life trying to teach me the value of taking good care of things, he changed his life so dramatically that he inspired me.  I know, no matter what you can change anything, you can be anything, you can do anything if you just put your mind to it.  He always loved me no matter what and that wasn’t always easy and in that taught me unconditional love. He taught me to grease barrings on my first car…something I never did again, he taught me to change a tire, change brakes, change windshield wipers and to never buy the same size so you don’t get that line.  He always fixed anything I needed and my gratitude was no near enough for all he taught me and did for me. He passed away and everyday I try to make him proud and know he’s looking down say great job today or try again tomorrow 😀
  • Barbara Ingle – (aka my mom) – My mom is a very strong woman and because of that I am and becoming even more so a very strong woman.  Through loss, life and all the things that seem impossible to overcome her influence helped to make me who I am. She was always there to help no matter the time or the issue.  She was always there to listen and to love.  She walked beside me through a lot of difficulties. She helped me to see where I was wrong so I could move forward in the right. Not everyone gets a mom like that so be grateful if you do.
  • Danny (sorry can’t reveal the name)  – An individual unlike any other. An atheist who challenged my point of view, who I could discuss things with without it being harsh or mean spirited and at times even had some fun with it all.  Still have a little fun now and then with out differences but not nearly as much as we used to as time passes on, we both begin disscussions with others and not each other as much.
  • Becky Van Den Ham – The best friend anyone could ever ask for.  She has been there for me through everything.  She knows more about me than anyone. She has helped to steer me into the woman I am today.  She has loved me wild, crazy, less than morally living and living morally. I have her to thank for so, so much that words can’t express my gratitude and love for her. She is the friend you hear about but don’t usually ever find 😀

There are a million more but this blog is super long already so are you ready to raise your bar?

Thanks for reading and have a happy day,                                                                                                Ginger

 

The muting Angel April 5, 2016

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As many times as I’ve read the Bible, let alone the gospels Zechariah’s story never really went noted until last night.  Zechariah’s in the temple when an angel comes to him to say he and his barren, elderly wife, Elizabeth, are to have a child and name him John.  As any of us might do, Zechariah said, um, how exactly, are you sure about this, (paraphrasing).

The angel then introduces himself as Gabriel and says he’s standing in the presence of the Lord and because of Zechariah’s doubt he will not be able to speak until the appointed time (when Elizabeth gives birth). I know we are not supposed to doubt and if an angel is, in fact, before you, you should really reconsider any doubt despite the obvious facts (barren and elderly), but I’m afraid I would ask the same questions as Zechariah.

Moving on, Zechariah stays in the temple awhile then comes out still unable to speak   Those who had been waiting for him to come out realize, despite his muteness, that he has had a vision, not due to the length but due to signs he was making.   We would in likely hood, today,  think he’d lost it. Imagine, your pastor going in to pray, staying for unusually long time, then coming out waving his hands and making signs but not saying a word. Would you think, yep, it was a vision, probably not.

After all this,  he goes home. Upon his arrival he still can not speak or exclaim with jubilee his encounter or tell his wife she will bore a son after all these years. Soon after his arrival,  his wife becomes pregnant.  Now all this ties into Mary and Joseph. When Elizabeth is pregnant the same angel, Gabriel, visits a virgin named Mary and announce she will have a child.  Mary also asks how this could be.  Gabriel tells her Zechariah and Elizabeth, known as barren and elderly, are pregnant and if God can do this then his word will never fail and she would have a child even as a virgin.

Back to Zechariah and Elizabeth.  When Elizabeth gives birth she goes to name the child. Those around her want her to name him after the father and she says no, his name is John. Remember Zechariah still can not speak.  The people say to give him a tablet that he may write the name he wishes the child to have and he writes “His name shall be John”  Immediately after writing this his mouth was open and his tongue set free and he began to speak praising God.

Of course there is more to this but this is a brief version.  John would go on to fufill some great things as the angel said he would when he told Zechariah of his birth. I suppose the appropriate title would be the angel who temporarily muted a man 😀

Thanks for reading my brain splatter, would love to hear your thoughts and have a great night!!

 

March 29, 2016

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Have you ever felt like you want to run as far and as fast as possible and never look back because behind you is a place where you’ll never be good enough, smart enough, pretty enough, anything enough?  What lies ahead allows you to become all those things what you left behind won’t.

Just sayin…..